Let me start with a disclaimer: These are my thoughts and my thoughts only. You can discard them if you like because that's how I roll. ;-)
So the truth of the matter is this:
When we have done this before we were all in the right mindset BEFORE we started, which in turn, created a positive outcome for all of us.
As I read what everyone wrote and as I take my own a blase’ attitude into consideration, it seems to me, this time, we were all hoping for the contest to ‘give’ us motivation and maybe create that mindset once again. Truth is, things don’t work if you don’t go in with the right attitude. You can’t just ‘create’ it....it has to be there.
Ask a former smoker (not only me). They will always tell you, the time they successfully stopped was when they were DONE. When they simply didn’t want to smoke any more and they knew it from the start. It’s no different here. Speaking for only myself, I said right from the start of this contest.... “I don't expect to do much more unless things ease up around here and that doesn't appear to be in the very near future.” Well.....I got exactly what I expected. Nothing much.
And to clarify, I’m not minimizing anyone’s efforts here. I love that A completed a 5K. I love that you guys get out to the gym or go for a run or a walk. I love that Ange is on a decline, even if it’s slower than she would like. I’m just saying that we have all collectively done better when we ALL collectively started with the right attitude and focus. Hell, we don’t even do our daily logs. How can we encourage each other if we don’t know who’s having trouble and who’s having success?
I’m a little disappointed in myself, for being too busy, for not making time, for not giving my friends the support they may (or may not have needed). At the same time, I also forgive myself, because I am only now starting to breathe after 2 ½ months of madness and I am okay where I am. When I'm ready, I'll be ready.
Keep going ladies!!!
by the way, I'm 147 today. I can deal with that.
Jake- you are right about attitude being a predictor of the outcome.
ReplyDeleteJake, I totally hear ya. I'm definitely not logging the way I would like although I do have to say I look forward to reading everyone's posts and it keeps me going knowing I'm not alone in this struggle (although it feels like it's an eternal struggle... sigh). I guess what we each get out of it is up to us. Even though I'm not posting every day, I still like feeling "accountable" to you guys to weigh in every week. I feel like I really let all control get away from me when my weight is my own dirty little secret.
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